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August 2009 Vol.11 #8
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We asked some of our favorite poets for poems about writing poetry...
Frances Sbrocchi
Robin Hiersche
Susan Diodati
Daneille Joy Linhart
Blake More
Georgia Jones
Irma Hudson
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Google has long dominated the search engine scene. About 65% of US searches are currently being done on Google, and I use it often, marveling at the millions of results it gives. Probably you do too. Bing is a new search engine introduced recently by Microsoft as a competitor to Google. It claims to be a decision engine, giving more relevant and organized results. It is replacing Microsoft Live Search and Yahoo search and is out to give Google some serious competition. This has created tremendous excitement in many places, from the New York Times to PC Magazine. The two engines seem to be running neck to neck, with some commentators preferring newcomer Bing and others concluding that tried-and-true Google is better. Just for fun, I tried a simple search on "answer life universe" on each search engine. Google found over 3 million results, Bing over 14 million! Bing's sidebar of related searches provided the suggestion "answer life universe everything" which also points to Douglas Adam's famous question: What is the answer to life, the universe and everything? The answer, of course, is 42. Blackdog has made it possible to do a direct comparison of these two. You can type in search terms and see both results side by side. That can give you a real feel whether you prefer one over the other. A great way to determine if one does better than the other for your searches. I haven't seen much difference so far. These two big names are not the only games in town. The Search Engine List shows a lot of tools available for searching. Try some. My favorites are the visual search engine Kartoo, which gives results as mindmaps, and Wolfram Alpha, which I discussed in last month's Flights. There are lots and lots of ways to find answers on the Internet. What's your favorite? |
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Encouraging Creativity At Day Care The safety and well being of the kids at our day care is our primary responsibility as providers. Although we may often feel as though we are merely umpiring bedlam we are not simply caretakers but facilitators, charged with the important task of developing every aspect of these growing individuals. Encouraging creativity and imagination is a vital aspect of this facilitation role. Children are guaranteed a richer and more complete life if we have opened the door to multiple creative outlets. Here are some pointers on opening those doors. Kids will learn to grow and appreciate the arts, culture and beauty following even small amounts of exposure to same. When possible arrange brief visits to the art gallery, museum or craft fair so that kids get an overview of different forms of art. Introduce music to the curriculum by playing different styles of music and have the kids dance and move about plus arrange trips to see plays and musical performances. Get out on nature walks to show the kids first hand the natural beauty surrounding them, introduce sand and water for experimental play and discover the multitude of creative activities available in the kitchen. Reading is vital and should be encouraged. Stories at story time can become rambling yarns that become plays that take on a life of their own. No limits! Kids have a natural, inbuilt love of music. Get the musical instruments out (improvise with household items if necessary), let them rock out (suffer the headacheits a good cause!). Get a sing song going and make up new words, act out the songs and help make music come alive as an organic, malleable instrument. The subsequent endeavors may well be dubious (songs that are vaguely punk rockish rather than melodious, artistic attempts that resemble puke) but all expression should be praised and discussed. Creative play tends towards the messy end of the scale.let it be so. Order is not a concept that sits well with creative spirits so, difficult though it may be to see your impeccable playroom descend into chaos, try to rise above it. You can attempt to minimize some of the damage by using aprons, laying newspaper or spreading a tarp.Let them off with their creative processes and dont try to direct their efforts. Every work of art is personal and meaningful and should be the direct result of freedom of expression, even for toddlers. Ask questions, encourage discussion, help with a particular process should they ask and never criticize. The benefits of creative and imaginative play are many and wondrous. Children feel unthreatened in imaginary situations and are more likely to experiment with their verbal skills. Role play can encourage them to express worries or fears and can also thus leading to active problem solving. Creativity can help unlock hitherto untapped talents leading to increased confidence in a child. Most importantly, boredom becomes a thing of the past when the magical kingdom of the imagination has been unlocked. As a day care owner Fiona Lohrenz has extensive experience of childcare which she writes about on her website. She has also used this knowledge to produce a 'Start a Daycare Business' DVD guide: Starting A Daycare You can find her at her Day Care focused website. |
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The Key to Glorious Living
"Most people invite the guests, and furnish themselves as the meal." What do these words mean to you? Many years ago, I was standing in a beautiful valley in the far north of Canada with my teachers Agnes Whistling Elk and Ruby Plenty Chiefs, elder shaman women, talking about fears and especially the fear of being seen as unworthy. Agnes said to me,
I think of her words often in my work, especially at this time of year when so many homes are filled with the laughter and aromas of back yard barbeques and gatherings of friends. Yet so often, what begins as a celebration of friendship and fun turns into an exhausting journey of self-doubt and self-criticism that can leave you drained for days. As you prepare your home to receive guests, you suddenly see scratches, dings and little blemishes that you've lived with happily for months, maybe even years. So you go shopping for new things that you don't really need (and sometimes don't even like) with money you probably shouldn't spend to cover imperfections in your home that nobody is really going to notice. We've all done it. We plan our menus from our most fabulous cooking and then find ourselves standing in the supermarket saying, "What if this dish isn't really as good as my family thinks it is? What if somebody doesn't like it? Maybe I should make something else, or better yet, I'll make a whole variety of things. That way people can pick and choose." Then you go home to start cooking and drive yourself into an absolute frenzy, trying to make too many things in too little time, worrying that the kids are going to mess up their bedrooms or worse yet, leave their shoes by the front door and their socks in the hall, as if no other kid on the planet has ever done that. You dash from room to room, making an inventory of everything you think needs to be fixed before the doorbell rings and then fret that you might have missed the timer and something is burning on the stove. By the time the doorbell rings, you are exhausted, and then you spend the entire evening apologizing for the sauce that you didn't make because you grabbed the wrong spice at the store, or pointing out the scratch on the coffee table that you've already covered with a vase of flowers, just in case somebody might notice it anyway. You've invited company and served yourself as the meal, and by the time everybody goes home you feel like a limp dishrag. Why do we do that to ourselves? It's good to put our own personal world on its best behavior once in a while, even though there's always something that is not going to go as planned. Some of the best times we've ever had have probably come when the oven malfunctioned and the turkey was almost raw, or the cat that was supposed to be locked in the closet knocked the salad on the floor and then flew through the gravy trying to escape, and everybody had to come together to pool their laughter and their talent to bring the evening back from the brink of disaster … as long as it happens in somebody else's home, right? Why do we get so caught up in the need for 'perfection' that we panic and allow our fears of our own inadequacy to take over and blind us completely to the great gift of friendship in our lives? Our friends don't come over to inspect our homes or grade our culinary abilities. They come over to be with us, to celebrate with us the things that we've chosen to celebrate in our lives, including the blasted cat. But we forget that so easily. Did you know that it's really not necessary to go to bed completely drained after a night of entertaining friends? It's always going to be exhausting; that's what happens when you add so much to one simple evening in your home. But there are two kinds of tired. There's good tired, and there's bad tired. When you put yourself in service to your fears, you end up bad tired. When you put yourself in service to what you perceive are your inadequacies, finding them everywhere you turn and feeding them with every thought, you are always going to come away drained beyond the point of exhaustion. When you put yourself in service to your friendships, on the other hand, a wholly different dynamic is created. You put yourself in service to your creativity and your love for what you are doing, the people for whom you are doing it even if you really don't like to cook, and you soon discover that even though you may have worn yourself out, you've never felt so good. You ready your home, not with an eye to making it 'perfect' (which it's never going to be if people really live there) or so you won't be 'judged' (by whom? you're the only one who's judging, everyone else is just coming to dinner). You ready your home because it makes you feel good to see it shine. You cook, not with the thought of being looked upon as the culinary wizard on the block but because you really care about the people who are coming over. Even on those occasions that you're not so fond of the people who are coming over, maybe it's the boss who's not so nice or your son's baseball coach whom you don't know at all but this is important to your son, you care about the reasons for hosting the dinner in the first place, so you make what you care about your focus. You take the spotlight off yourself and your judgments and your fears and you put it on caring for the world around you, and the evening becomes uplifting no matter how much is involved. Do what you do with loving care, love for yourself, love for the opportunity to care for others, love for cooking, love for this beautiful home you've created. Find something about what you are doing to love and then put your love into everything that you do. So often we coax our fears. There's a funny thing about coaxing your fears: the fears are sure to follow. So when you find yourself getting caught up in judgment, self-judgment and inadequacy, fears of any sort, quit coaxing them. Instead, find something to love about whatever it is you are doing and put yourself in service to that love. Therein lies the key to glorious living: Find a way to do everything that you do with loving care. You will be amazed at how wonderful life really is.
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Eliminate stress eating to lose weight requires self love among other characteristics. The concept of an overweight person loving oneself is an alien concept and is sure to confuse. Why? It is simply because those suffering from being overweight have learned to "Hate" their overweight condition and their overweight bodies. They use the hate to justify the diet, yet long term the diet doesn't work as 95% of those who lose weight gain it all back. Total success in losing weight and managing one's eating habits requires love of self. Yes, love of that spare tire around the tummy. Without self love it's practically impossible to master emotional eating and feel good about you. The fear though is that if one loves his/her spare tire, then he/she won't do anything to get rid of it. The inability to resolve this dichotomy keeps millions overweight. Why love? Look at those excess pounds as a child crying for help. And this isn't so far from reality for it's the child within each of us that gains the weight. The parent in us would keep us underweight, but the child indulges. A lot is to be learned about the child from where the weight is stored on one's body. A child that lacks courage to deal with life's challenges will store weight in the stomach and abdominal area. Rather than get upset with the child, the best way to deal with a child is to nurture. So if you retain your weight in the midsection, it's more appropriate to look at your life situations where you are short on courage, acknowledge this as you goal (gain more courage in dealing with __________) and send love to your child and you now have the key to losing weight in your stomach region. The child who stores weight in one's legs has a direction problem in life. Taking steps to achieve a goal/s is the issue, whether it be steps to end a relationship or steps to start a new career. The child who stores weight in one's buttocks has a support issuefor instance, it could be a fear of asking others for support. They may feel that they are very much alone in this life. The child who stores weight in the chest area has a compassion issue. This is the heart center and weight here blocks one's ability to experience compassion. And often it's compassion for self in that they are more demanding of themselves than they are of others. The child who stores weight in the arms has an issue with reaching for and grasping what they want in life. The child who stores weight in the neck area has an issue with flexibility of direction. It's like they have blinders on and can only look in one direction. The child who stores weight in the facial area has communication issues with others. If you get the gist of this, you will be far better off nurturing the child in building confidence, flexibility, compassion, stamina (oh that's the back area), support, options, self esteem... than you will be with using self putdowns. Send an ounce of love to those excess pounds and it will dissolve ten pounds. Do this and you'll be ready to embrace the emotions that contribute to the fears of being flexible, confident, compassionate, asking for support... A progressive approach to eliminate stress eating involves asking important questions "What is missing? Why are you not getting the results you've been promised from the experts you've consulted and the books you've read?" It is clearly insane to keep dieting and using techniques to deal with your eating habits when the results are so poor. It's more important to gain a grasp on how to love oneself--every pound of oneself than it is to read the scale. Besides focusing on the scale doesn't empower you to be a better more enlightened person, whereas learning how to overcome emotional eating empowers you in all aspects of your life. If you're a beautician, you'll be a better beautician. If you're a contractor, you'll be a better contractor; a mother, a better mother... Overall, you'll build self worth and find that what you really want to eat is far more nutritious and less in quantity than you ever before imagined possible. Visit Richard Kuhns B.S.Ch.E., NGH certified, this new year. He is a prominent figure in the field of hypnosis with his best selling hypnosis and stress management cds at http://www.DStressDoc.com and http://www.PanicBusters.com. His aim is to make it possible for anyone to manage emotional binge eating. For more information please visit www.dstressdoc.com/BingeEatingEbook.htm
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Out of the Clear… But then What?
from Danielle Joy Linhart Being in an abusive relationship is kind of a routine after awhile. A cycle that becomes a normal relationship on the inside, but when looking at it on the outside it looks quite scary and abnormal. We always talk about getting out of that and YES it is the hardest part… I know I was there, but what about after that? What about finally getting out that bad relationship and dealing with Side Effects. Some teens don't have the guidance to know what the next step is after the relationship is over. In my case it has been 10 years and I am finally getting the help I need and it has been quite rough at times. At the same time it feel as though the biggest weight has been lifted off of my back, the hatred, the sadness, the self hate and regret being scratched off my back. Teenagers are so vulnerable and absorb so much with emotional abuse and need that emotional healing after an abusive relationship. It is so essential to get help and comfort afterward not only to break the bad cycle but to start a new healthy one, to get out of the sadness, self blaming and regret. Turn that around into healing, confidence, and happiness. For years I have been blaming myself for letting someone abuse me and I know I am not alone in this, so I can't stress enough how important it is to speak someone professionally about the abusive relationship and let it out. Of course, It will be hard to overcome and discuss, but well worth it in the end. There are group organizations, online resources, books to consider to make recovery an even easier road. I would like to take this time to discuss the side effects of Teen Dating Abuse. First I would like to say that it is most common cause of injury in women in the United States. The head, the face, the neck, chest, breasts and stomach are the area's most frequently injured. The longer she stays in the relationship then more side effects can arise such as:
This is just some of the side effects that can occur after an abusive relationship that is a cause of concern. Because of all of the great recourses out there, help is just a hand shake away. You just have to want to feel better and be true to yourself. Whether it's a book, a website or a person the help is there for a bright future. I feel lucky each and every day to have had support around me, but being mentally strong is the key "To being True to Oneself". Danielle Joy Linhart is the author of From Deep Within A portion of the proceeds from her book will be donated to LoveIsRespect.org
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Winnie Owens ~ Following her heart
Winnie was an early guest of Dottie Moore on her LadybugLive program, "The GalleryCreative Traces". Her pottery and masks, a complex mix of African and American traditions, are beautiful to see and her interview with Dottie gave an interesting look into the mixture that makes an artist.
Over three decades of national and international exhibitions;In the collection of the Smithsonianƒs Renwick Gallery; Extensive experience in foundations studies, art education and consultation; Instruction in the areas of ceramics: on & off the wheel and three dimensional concepts. Consistent research and development of ceramic techniques and educational materials; Research in ceramics occupational health and safety; Administrative experience in program design and curriculum development; Experience in the development, implementation, and supervision of ceramic cottage industry projects in developing countries; Curatorial experience recently including "Reconstructing the Shards", an exhibition of African American ceramists historical and contemporary. Winnie is the founder of the Ile Amo Research Center dedicated to aboriginal ceramics. She is also founder and original imaginer of the Women's Pottery House, and it is in that capacity that we want to tell you more about her here.
This is my thinking (and I envision this all over West Africa). In each remote village I build and modestly equip a Woman's Potters House, active solar (no more health damage from the use of kerosene) and a safe water supply. The driving mission is to preserve traditional African Ceramics. It is the oldest pottery (yes, older than Japanese...although the west and east will never admit the truth) and we need to hold fast to and preserve every inch of our ancestral accomplishments. I can only manage this in clay. I select a young female potter from each village to be trained in technical ceramics by one of the universities. That woman agrees, in exchange for the training, to return and run the Woman's Potters House. To make money, the women will produce modern clay products like dishes, tiles (wall and roof, accessories for hotels, etc) for 3 days per week the other 3 days they continue to produce traditional pottery. I will also try to secure a tourist market for those women's traditional works. I think this will work. At least I will try over the next few years to get one house each established in Nigeria and Ghana to stand as demonstration houses. I fully anticipate that what will also happen is that these houses will become education arts/retail centers for these women. The one I send to college will teach others at this facility. They will be taught the Business of Ceramicsmarketing in a contemporary setting as well as continuing their traditional marketing methods. I see their successes positively benefiting the entire community because we will need others to transport raw materials and finished products. I do not know where this will lead but too many people have taken resourcescultural and physical, raping this land and the people for too long. This is not a "missionary" effort on my part. this effort has a two-sided reward for me: In helping my traditional sisters to maintain a craft that several hundreds of years old I have living evidence of my own ancestors contributions to the field of world ceramics. At the same time I will feel as though I have helped my contemporary sisters to thrive, as I do through teaching and making of ceramics in America. Once the first two, demonstration, houses are a success and we use them to work out the bugs in the process they can be used as prototypes for the entire continent where woman's crafts/ceramics financially support women and their children. The net result is in their earning a living; improving their quality of life while preserving a valuable cultural component to the overall picture of the history of African art and culture.
I tried to get trained by Potter for Peace on the construction of the clay water filer systems but that did not work out before I left. So that will have to be the first order of business when I return before my next trip back to West Africa.
My main mission is to see if I can set up a small pottery Women's center in the village in Nigeria and Ghana. Not bigger than 25X25 feet, active solar and some safe drinking water source (well, etc.)
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